What You May Be Feeling...
During this stage， you might experience different emotions. It can be gratifying to feel that your child is finally asattached to you as you are to him or her. But you're likely to feel guilty about taking time out for yourself， leaving your childwith a caregiver， or going to work. And you may start to feel overwhelmed by the amount of attention your child seems to need from you.
Keep in mind that your little one's unwillingness to leave you is a good sign that healthy attachments have developed between the two of you. Eventually， your child will be able to remember that you always return after you leave， and that will be enough comfort while you're gone. This also gives kids a chance to develop coping skills and alittle independence.
Be calm and consistent. Create a exit ritual during which you say a pleasant，loving， and firm goodbye. Stay calm and show confidence in your child. Reassure him or her that you'll be back — and explain how longit will be until you return using concepts kids will understand (such as after lunch) because your child can't yet understand time. Give him or her your full attention when you say goodbye， and when you say you're leaving， mean it; coming back will only make things worse.
Follow through on promises. It's important to make sure that you return when you have promised to. This is critical — this is how your child will develop the confidence that he or she can make it through the time apart.
As hard as it may be to leave a child who's screaming and crying for you， it's important to have confidence that the caregiver can handle it.
If you're caring for another person's child who's experiencing separation anxiety， try to distract the child with an activity or toy， or with songs， games， or anything else that's fun. You may have to keep trying until something just clicks with the child.
Also， try not to mention the child's mother or father， but do answer the child's questions about his or her parents in asimple and straight forward way. You might say: "Mommy and Daddy are going to be back as soon as they are done dinner. Let's play with some toys!"